Losing weight isn't all roses and skinny jeans. Losing weight is warding off demons so you don't fall back on old habits and coping with weight gain fear. Losing weight is dealing with your emotional relationship with food. Losing weight is dealing with fans and haters.
During my weight loss, a friend would always put a negative twist on my weight loss. What I eventually realized was her statements, were not a reflection of me. It was about her. She knew she should have been focusing on her health and losing weight. Her way of dealing with those feelings was deflecting them on me. She was a weight loss hater.
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I believed once I reached my ideal weight that dealing with haters would be over. I was wrong. Even now, I still deal with people putting me down or critiquing me for how I lost weight. People don't want to believe that you really can have a healthy approach to weight loss. People manipulate facts making them into something they are not.
It's empowering to figure out who you are and embrace it. I want everyone in this world to feel that in their life.
So when someone belittles my weight loss, it doesn't make me mad. It drives me. It drives me to tell my story more because so many people need help taking control of their health. While everyone needs to discover what works best for them, I want my story to inspire others to discover their version of healthy and transform their lives. Through my weight loss, I not only discovered many things about my body but also I discovered myself. Who I am, what I'm capable of and what I'm meant to be which was so much more than I ever imagined.
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Before I go on, let's revisit some facts about me. I lost 80 pounds many years ago. I lost weight eating healthy foods and walking every day. Back then I didn't have a gym membership. I walked. I ate real foods. I didn't do a fad diet, I didn't take supplements or pills, I didn't eat candy or processed foods and I certainly never stopped eating (I like food too much). I ate healthy foods, reduced my portions and monitored my calories with a doctor's supervision. I made a lifestyle change for my health, one that has stuck with me to this day.
But as we know, the formula for dropping pounds is much more than working out and eating better. Weight loss is personal. It requires trial and error. Actually, a lot of trial and error. The problem is people don't put the time and effort into figuring out their body and what works best for them. Weight loss is a journey, a discovery of how your body functions best. What foods work best for your body, your lifestyle and genetic disposition. Discovering what workouts you enjoy and can perform with your body and its limitations.
Weight loss is about you.
Through my own trial and error, I discovered when it comes to dropping pounds certain healthy foods do not work for my body. Instead I found alternate healthy foods that made me feel good that I enjoyed eating. The secret for anyone making a change is finding what you like to eat otherwise the habit will not stick with you in the long run. I guarantee you'll go back to your old eating habits.
While weight loss is a component of becoming healthy, there are people who believe losing weight is "unhealthy" aka the haters. Losing weight isn't unhealthy. In fact, it couldn't be farther from the truth.
Weight loss is about getting healthy and making a life long commitment to change and finding what works for you.
Somehow in the midst of healthy living trends, weight loss has gained a bad rap. There are people who believe it's wrong to say "I want to lose weight." They think if you have lost weight or are losing weight you're must be doing a fad diet or restricting. They try to take any and all virtue away from someone who may have lost weight the right way. Instead of encouraging them to stay on course with their health journey or praising their accomplishments, they put them down. "You shouldn't want to lose weight just be healthy."
Herein lies the weight loss haters.
When it comes to food relationships, I believe there are three types of people. The first type are those who obsesses over what they eat, when they eat, how much they eat, restricting their food until they become ill and eventually needing help to define a balanced & trusting relationship with food again. The second are those who are clinically overweight, need to drop pounds to get healthy & need a lifestyle overhaul. I fell into the second type. The last type are the intuitive eaters who have a balanced and healthy approach to food and exercise. The healthy living utopia so many of us envy.
Weight loss hating begins when type one and type two misunderstand each other or when type two hate on each other. In the first scenario, type one attacks type two thinking they're wrong for wanting to lose weight. Type one has had such an unhealthy relationship with food they assume type two must be wrong for having a weight loss goal. They think they should just get healthy. What type one lacks in understanding is that...
Weight loss is part of becoming healthy.
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Type two people are also haters to one another. This was the case with my friend. Someone who was jealous of what I was doing for myself and my health.
All weight loss haters have one thing in common. They've forgotten there's a serious epidemic in America. People are severely overweight and yes, overweight people DO need to get healthy. But just because they have a goal of losing weight to regain control of their health doesn't mean they should be put down for it. No wonder so many people give up on their goals. They're criticized before they try. To the weight loss haters, I ask you to ask yourself this question.
What about yourself makes you unhappy that you put other people down for having a weight loss goal to improve their health?
We shouldn't be telling people not to think about weight loss. It's like saying you shouldn't change your lifestyle when you have high cholesterol or high blood pressure. We all know those are precursors to heart disease. How is that different from weight loss? Being overweight can cause heart disease. Shouldn't you lose weigh to protect your heart? Why are the only people attacked are those wanting to lose weight? Plenty of people are on specific "diets."
Why aren't the weight loss haters attacking the Paleo, gluten free, vegans, pescatarians, vegetarians and diabetics?
Unfortunately we live in a world of unhappy people. People who would rather be negative and put others down rather than build them up because they're not happy. Weight loss haters are mean girls. I say stop tearing each other down and start building each other up.
Respect, Uplift, Encourage
If you're trying to lose weight and dealing with haters, remember it's not about you. It's about them. Tell yourself if someone is spending their time critiquing and tearing me down, it means they're fundamentally unhappy in their own life. They are deeply unfulfilled and have a pervasive lack of self-worth. Whatever the motivation is, do not let it take you down or stop you from chasing your goals. They're your goals, they're your dreams and you and you alone are the only one who has to live with the regret of not chasing them.
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Are you a weight loss hater? How do you deal with haters?
Lots of Health, Food & Love,
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