People Ask Me All The Time How I Lost 80 pounds
I tell people all the time that reaching my goal weight and losing 80 pounds was easy. I usually get a perplexed look when I say that but the truth is, it was that simple. I changed what I was eating, how much I was eating, started working out and committed to it every day. I didn’t have cheat days, I didn’t binge, I didn’t workout like a maniac. I just made simple changes to my lifestyle and stuck to them. That easy. But what wasn’t easy, was dealing with everything that came after the weight loss.
The Emotional Side of Weight Loss
There are various emotional stages of weight loss which are not discussed very much. First is the initial shock. WTF am I doing??? I’m so hungry! How am I going to stick with this? I hate vegetables! Then comes the excitement after losing a few pounds and people begin to notice. After sticking with your same routine, the weight loss slows resulting in feelings of frustration from the dreaded plateau. Eventually things turn around and the goal is achieved, but it is with mixed emotions of joy and sorrow which I will get to in a minute. Finally, once the reality of weight loss has set in the dreaded weight gain fear takes over.
Reaching My Goal Weight Taught Me A Really Important Lesson
Weight loss taught me I didn’t like myself. After years of battling weight loss, the real truth was I didn’t feel good enough inside. When I finally achieved my goal weight, I felt joy and sorrow. In fact, more sorrow. The opposite of what one would expect. I felt like part of me died. I had no idea who I was. My perception of myself my whole life was merely physical. When that changed, I no longer knew who I was.
It Took Losing 80 Pounds For Me To Realize, It Wasn’t My Body I Was Unhappy With
I was unhappy with myself. Fat or skinny. I didn’t like who I was. I had no sense of who I was. Suddenly I was flooded with questions of who am I? What am I passionate about? What do I feel? What do I want to be? How do I want to experience life? There was no mind, body, soul connection. I realized I had been living an emotionless life. Going through the motions of what I thought I should be and believing the size of my body was what was holding me back from bigger and better things when in fact it was my mind holding me back.
My Body Was A Reflection Of My Feelings
My body had become overweight because I was insecure so I ate to feel better about myself. My body had become a reflection of those feelings and how I was treating my body showed in my weight. Think about a time when you bought something you were just meh about. Maybe a new outfit, pair of shoes, purse, whatever. Then imagine something you love so much you would die if it were ruined or lost. Now think about those two things and compare how you treat them differently. For me, I take really good care of the things that matter to me. Conversely I am not so careful with the things I could live without. Reaching my goal weight taught me I didn’t care about myself and that was a hard reality to face.
You Have A Choice
I believe people struggling with weight loss have much deeper emotional issues. They’re unhappy and turn to food for comfort. The weight is simply a reflection of those feelings. Fat, skinny, short or tall. No matter what the size, you see happy people in all sizes. A true testament that your weight does not define your self worth. You do! So you can continue living unhappy or you can chose to be happy. If I had to do it again, I’d choose happy, a thousand times over. My only wish is that I would have done it sooner.
If you chose happy, then read my eBook, Ditch the Diet. In it, I share more details about my weight loss along with a step-by-step guide that walks you through implementing small changes over time to create a healthy lifestyle that will help you lose weight and live your happy life. Everyone wants to be happy so what’s stopping you? Get started now!
What do you choose? Do you believe your body is a reflection of how you feel about yourself?